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My son is going through the pain of fighting to see his eight-year-old son (Fathers 4 Justice: Design-a-movement, 1 March).
His ex-partner has met someone else. He's only just started the legal battle, and it's cost him about £2000. He's been the sole provider for the past 10 years, for what? The law has got to change. Women are using children as weapons, not caring what distress they put them through. He's my only grandchild, and it looks like I've lost him too.
Pamela Pitt, UK
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Josie Appleton chides Fathers 4 Justice unfairly (Fathers 4 Justice: Design-a-movement, 1 March).
She correctly points out that, at least so far, Fathers 4 Justice might be lot of form and not much substance. But is this such a bad thing? These guys are up against a lot - biased family courts, insinuations from feminists that father's rights are just about ducking child support payments, and backward attitudes in society that say men oughtn't (read 'can't') parent nearly as well as women. Factor in the clock ticking on trying to avoid ending up a McDonald's Dad, and one can see how movement building might be an overly tall order for a lot of working blokes. I live in California. Next month, my daughter, who's nearly three, will be moving to Minnesota with her mother. Her mother left me seven months ago for one man, only to take up with another, and decide that St Paul is where she wants to be.
Not one, but two lawyers have told me that I haven't a snowball's chance in hell of preventing the move - even though my ex has no other contacts in Minnesota but her boyfriend, and no job offer of any kind. Both lawyers freely admit that the supposed gender neutrality of California family law, which presumes that joint custody is in the child's best interest, is in practice a sordid joke. Their advice? Move to Minnesota, and start over. I'm 46 years old, and I know no one there. If donning a silly costume gets one official's attention, starts one conversation on fairness to men in family law, or emboldens one man to act, then it's all worth it. I sure wish Superman would help me out. I'm that desperate.
Douglas Presler, USA
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